The following is a guide to help you determine if your mate is cheating on you. After reading this list you may find there is some area of concern. Do not confront the cheater because this will only cause them to clean up their act, become more careful not to get caught, and make it more difficult for you to catch them. You may not have enough proof to make your case. I would urge you to seek professional help.
1. At the beginning of an affair the mate that is cheating is more attentive to his/her spouse. This is due to guilt that the cheater may be feeling at the time.
2. After the affair has been going on for a while, the person cheating seems to find fault with the person he/she may be living with to try to justify the affair in their mind. They may become physically or verbally abusive. Saying things such as: "You never do anything right", "You can't make me happy any more", "I don't know why I'm still with you", "Why don't you leave", "You're getting fat", "What's this you've cooked for me, it's horrible", "You haven't done anything all day, what are you good for", "I love you, I'm just not in-love with you any more", "You can't give me what I want any more", "I need some time to myself", "I don't care about you any more", "You are hopeless", "I hate you". All of these quotes does not mean that your spouse/partner is having an affair, please use this as a guide only. Intuition (gut feeling) that something is not right usually is a sign you may have a cheating problem.
3. Cheating spouses/partners may lose interest in the activities in the home. They don’t show interest in the livelihood of you or the children that live in the home. Sometimes they no longer have any desires to do any fix-ups to the home (i.e. lawn care, house repairs, etc.).
4. Cheaters my have a change in sex life (i.e. more sex, less sex) as well as unexplained sexual requests. If you have never watched pornographic material before and now all of a sudden you are asked to perform what is on the tape, this may be a sign that your spouse/partnr is engaging in this type of activities with someone else.
5. The cheater has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home, especially the mate (i.e. “if he/she did not act the way they do, well then maybe I would not do the things I do”). You may start to get blamed for things more often.
6. The finances begin to change. If someone wants to play they have to pay! Keep an eye on the cheater's spending habits ( i.e. check book records, bank account balances, credit card bills, etc.). This will tell you whether their spending more money than usual. Or in some cases, extra money may appear for the female cheater.
7. Grooming habits will change. They may start to wear cologne/perfume or a different fragrance, get haircuts/hairdos more frequently, or start to dress differently by purchasing more revealing/youthful/designer clothing other than their normal style of fashions. Normally, if your spouse/partner has nothing to hide, they will share their purchases with you and explain what a "great deal" they got on those items!
BONUS: The cheater may purchase a sports car without discussing it with you, attend the night clubs more frequently, stay in the bathroom longer (he/she may be texting), hiding their cell phone, answering the home phone more frequently than usual especially on the first ring.
When In Doubt, Check It Out!
They also might call you from a private phone number to tell you that they will be home late. Why? I know your cell phone is working fine...I am not stupid.
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ReplyDeleteDear JP Investigative Group, please tell me if you have determined who cheats the most, women or men?
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ReplyDeleteDear Betty, JP Investigative Group has determined that it's about 50/50 due to the change in times. Long ago when women did not work and more of them were stay at home Moms, men had more of an opportunity to be unfaithful and their wives were less likely to find out about it. Today, more women have joined the workforce and find themselves meeting more of the opposite sex, mingling, networking, and enjoying the company of other men outside of their husbands. Women have often said that they cheat on their husbands because he may stop doing what he did in the beginning of their relationship that attracted them in the first place. Some women have admitted that they feel less attractive to their husbands so when a new man seems interested in them, they like the attention and things "just happen". Men have stated that they have cheated because they needed something more exciting sexually at the time but once it was over, they would go back home and fall in love with their wives all over again because they realized it was a mistake. Others have stated that "it's cheaper to keep the wife" and not deal with the financial issues that come along with a marriage but need that outlet of another woman who may satisfy their needs sexually, conversation wise and other compatible things that makes the other women so intriguing. There are several reasons as to why men and women cheat but. Our advice is to keep the lines of communication open at all times and treat your spouse/partner as if they were your best friend.
ReplyDeleteExcellent article!
ReplyDeleteThe problem most men have with women is that they are very crafty.
Wife Shames Husband (see full report at AOL)
ReplyDeleteBurning shame combined with the August morning sun and about a gazillion highly amused stares was the punishment one man endured for cheating on his wife.
William Taylor of Centreville, Va., got caught getting a little action on the side when he forgot to remove the incriminating evidence from his cell phone.
After finding the proof, his wife doled out a rather interesting punishment -- she forced him to stand at one of the busiest intersections in the D.C. metropolitan area wearing a sandwich board telling everyone he's a cheater. Consider it a modern-day version of a scarlet letter -- humiliating, but less catastrophic than some scorned women's destructive revenge tactics.
"I thought she was kidding, but she was serious," Taylor said.
"I figured I got to do what I got to do to makes things right. So here I am."
His punishment is set to last all week. Each day when morning rush hour winds down, William gets a text from his wife, giving him permission to stop the public humiliation for the day, although repeat sightings of Taylor suggest this is at least a week-long punishment. Those daily texts will probably make him happier than all the ones he got from his mistress combined.
Poll Results
Is this a fair punishment?
55% = Yes, the cheater deserves what he gets!
33% = No, his punishment should be a lot worse than a little embarrassment.
12% = No, this is cruel and unusual punishment.
Very true indeed, we experience women are the main instigators
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